There are two basic parts of gardening: to nourish and to protect. The same goes for mental health. Let's say your mind is a garden. The positive thoughts are the flowers and healthy plants. The negative thoughts are the weeds and pests come to consume. Just like you plant your flowers in good soil and make sure they receive adequate water and sunlight, there are ways to nourish the positive thinking in your mind. Comparatively, when considering the act of weeding or preventative care against pests, there are strategies for eliminating some of the negative thoughts that threaten to overtake your mind.
Nourishing Positive Thinking
Have you ever heard the expression "Garbage in, garbage out"? Basically, what you feed your mind is what will thrive in there. We are constantly applying meaning to everything we observe and experience. So, if we are frequently exposed to messages promoting self-compassion, kindness, joy, and love, then these themes will be prevalent in our mindset. Here are some helpful tips to try:
Notice what you tend to fill your mind with (what you're watching, listening to, who you spend time with the most, the opinions you adhere to, etc.).
Intentionally add more positivity to your social media feeds, playlists, social network, etc. (EX: Start following people who are inspirational, promoting healthy values.)
Engage in activities that bring joy and a connectedness to others and nature.
Weeding Out Negativity
Just like weeds in the garden, negative thoughts or themes can creep into our minds. Negative themes like insecurity, shame, jealousy, anxiety and isolation can be subtle. For example, a simple act of comparing self to that influencer can start a weed of insecurity. If you don't stay alert and persistent in the act of weeding, then weeds can quickly overtake a garden. Same thing with your mind. The key is being intentional and aware. Some strategies to get you started:
Pay attention to what messages are connected to the negative feelings as they come up.
List some of your negative thoughts and right next to them, list some healthier alternatives.
Engage in gratitude. Practice being grateful for everything - even if it feels ludicrous!
Remember, you have the power and responsibility to tend your mental garden. It's never too late. The more you invest in these practices, the more of an expert you'll become!